Stop Trying to be Perfect

Stop Trying to be Perfect and you will find more joy and satisfaction in your life

Who says you have to be perfect? Your religion? Your friends? your family? Stop Whoa Hang on, Wait a minute .. exactly who are you trying to impress.  No one has to be perfect and no one is. The one thing I know for sure is that everyone has something they are dealing with in their lives and while it may seem all rosy and perfect on the outside it ain’t so hunky dory on the inside.  So cut yourself some slack, ease up, take a chill pill and relax. You will live longer, be happier and more satisfied.  



Stop trying to keep up with the Joneses because, in reality, they are just trying to keep up with you and everyone else.  If you adopt the attitude ” What you think of me is none of my business then you will begin to surround yourself with people who are focused on what is really important in your life and that is the people you love and the memories you are making, not the things you have. Ask yourself, why do you feel the need to impress others or be perfect? Is it because you are feeling some inadequacy about yourself, or is it because in your childhood you were made to feel or believe you were not good enough? I’m telling you now, its time to let that go. Move on. You are NOT your past. You are whomever you choose to become.

The falsehood about Facebook is that it makes everyone look like they have a perfect life because of course, we don’t want to open our kimono and expose our true self. We live in fear that we may be judged or you may not like or accept us. Well I say who cares. If you like me and can accept me for all my flaws then great, be a part of my life, my tribe and we will have funs times together and experience the joy of simply sharing time, our souls our hearts and caring with one another. Afterall, we can’t take our stuff with us, all we can take is the love we shared and the memories we created.  


All we have to do is to be able to live with ourselves, be true to ourselves, be true to our creator. Live the Golden Rule – Treat others how we want to be treated.  If. you are working so hard to impress others, I challenge you this very day to STOP and take a look at what you are doing to yourself, your family. If you have to try to impress others, they really aren’t worthy of your friendship anyway.   If there is someone who thinks they are better than you for whatever reason, run and run fast, you don’t want their approval.  You don’t need their approval.  You don’t need your friends, or family or associates or anyone’s approval. All you need to do is to be able to live with yourself and have a clear conscience about how you’ve treated others.

And if you think you are better than others, take a step back and ask yourself why? Becuase you may have more money or a better job? You are not entitled to place yourself above anyone else no matter what you may think.  


When I find myself thinking negative thoughts  about others or starting to criticize others  I tell myself “Therefore by the Grace of God go I” Judge not that ye be not judged for with what measure ye judge ye shall be judged.” If you find yourself judging others ask yourself is this due to my own insecurities and lack of self-worth. Who or what gives me the right to judge another. Unless I have walked a mile in their shoes I am not in a position to judge.

Stop trying to be perfect and you will find more joy, happiness, peace, and contentment in your life. I’m not perfect and I don’t care. I love all my perfect imperfections.




  • Thank you for your insightful comments. I agree with you. I really like the book by Terry Cole-Whitaker
    “What you Think of Me is None of My Business”

  • lynda brown says:

    Such a good topic. Everyone compares themselves to others and most find fault with themselves when doing so. I was this way when I was younger.. will I have on the right clothes, will I say the right things? Why does that boy want to take me pot when there are so many prettier girls. . Later in life I started to realize I had ideas, talents and poise that I didn’t see in my friends and now as we talk, I have found out that all those young women were thinking the same things about themselves…they were insecure too, comparing themselves to others. Shocking really that we all wanted to be like someone else who wanted to be some one else too. Making the most of YOU is good enough.

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